Is my sister unfair, controlling, distrustful to me? Who owes an apology to whom? Should I get away from sis?

Okay...first off (and no offense) but why are you 51 and don't have a job? You should be in your career and getting ready to retire in a few years! Second - I think you are being ridiculous. You're sister opened up her home to you AND your dogs, and isn't charging you any money for rent or food. You are living with her and her husband scot free...and then complaining that THEY won't buy you a bed? You should be thankful for your sister and her husband's generosity, and you shouldn't just expect they do that for you just because you are family. You have to work for the things you want in life - you can't just expect to sit around and wait for someone to hand them to you. I would think considering your age you would have learned this already. If she doesn't want your dogs on her furniture or certain items - she has the right to say no. It is her home - and again you are not paying anything to live there, if you were her roommate and contributing to the bills it might be a different story. As far as you sister saying to stay out her marriage with her husband - she is right. Their marital problems are not your concern and you shouldn't be trying to solve them - that is THEIR job to fix it being that it is THEIR marriage. I think you should be grateful that you have a sister who cares enough about you to take you into her home and support you, and your dogs. Stop complaining about frivilous things - if you have that big of a problem with the way they are treating you then leave. To me it sounds like you are the one being controlling.